Silence is an Answer.

We are silent for many reasons: we don't know what to say, we are scared to open up and most times because it's much easier. Did it occur to you that silence is an answer and it says more about us than we know...?

Someone asked me 'How have you found the lockdown?' to which I replied ' it has been a rollercoaster of emotions'.It has been a time which has made me realise what I need in life (rather than want), appreciate what I have and learn more about myself. No day has been the same but each day has taught me so much.

As an introverted person ( as expressed in my other blog post), I am very quiet and tend to observe a lot. It has served to be both good and bad. I have been able to envision other people's perspective, become more selfless and developed a listening ear however it has also resulted in me not talking about things that affect me.

No one intends to stay silent, but it's the reasons such as 'no one cares/understands' that convince us that it's the best option. I bottle my emotions up that I could explode unexpectedly and I hurt myself rather than help myself.

I understand that difficult situations, personal experiences and sensitive discussions make it harder to speak up but the truth is we are better of talking about them. I know it takes courage to come out of being silent, I can relate to the anxiety that you may feel just trying but I can also tell you how much better you will feel once you find your voice. I started this blog during lockdown which in my journey in writing appears an odd time to do so. I discovered that this form of writing has helped me to share my story and create a space where others can share theirs too.

In light of recent events, the murder of George Floyd, it has become paramount to talk about the existing issue of racism and inequality. I speak for myself and I'm sure a lot of people when I say that it's devastating and unacceptable... leaving our hearts feeling heavy.

Many people are realising that it is not enough to keep things in, its now important to voice the truth that will create a much-needed change. We have spoken up in many ways e.g social media, books, blogs, podcasts etc all to achieve the same thing - Justice. My point is that there is power in speaking up about issues that matter to you and to others.

WHAT HAPPENS IF WE STAY SILENT?

People will take it the wrong way.

When you don't say anything it can be interpreted in many ways such as 'you don't care' or you don't need help. It often leads to people assuming things, misunderstanding or worse telling your story. Believe me when I say that it isn't worth people turning your truth into perceived lies. Sometimes, but not all the time, an explanation is needed and can go a long way.

Things won't be resolved, people can't help and nothing changes.

Saying what's on your mind and expressing what bothers you is the start to make things better. Without your efforts to speak up, you cannot expect to turn things around or things to be different.

You will suffer.

Staying quiet will only shoot you in your own foot. If you are privileged enough to have a voice why not use it? Although you might feel capable of keeping things to yourself it will not help you. There are many ways to reach out e.g. family, friends, strangers, charity organisations, medical people, etc. Don't feel like your alone and there is no one to listen because there is.

Will you choose to stay silent or choose to speak up? Every voice deserves to be heard, don't let people with little understanding, cause you to return to a place of suffering.

Thank you for reading this, share your story in the comments down below or get in touch with me.