Rejection Means Redirection.

The feeling of rejection is awful and can be so discouraging. I speak from recent experience - I want to confide in you about how I feel: but most importantly the lesson learnt.

I literally shed a few tears a few minutes ago after receiving an email saying 'Unfortunately...'. I read it in the presence of a loved one, which made it hard for me to show my emotions. I initially 'accepted it' and was ok but as it sunk in and my heart became heavy. I was disappointed with myself and could only concern myself with the people I let down (one of them being in the room). I left, to let myself resonate with my how I was feeling... to read the full email. The email had some POSITIVES but I couldn't help but see my journey came to a HALT.

I then listened to some music, I hoped it would remind me that everything was ok... that I would be just FINE. In the process of lying down and letting myself think, I was inspired to write- a little hard when you're still shedding more tears.

There are many instances of rejection: not getting that job or getting accepted to your first-choice of school or even being ignored by the person you love. Whether you have experience one of these or you've gone through another situation just know that you are nothing short of an amazing person with a lot of potentials.

THE DEFINITION OF IT.

I remembered that if I never faced rejection or low moments how could I appreciate the high moments in life. Everyone dreams of the winning moment, loud applause and incredible speech but what's it worth if you people can't relate or see that for themselves? You become inspiring, a role model and successful when you are truthful- speak from your heart about the struggles, the hurdles and rejections faced prior to where you are now. When this happens your victories become sweeter, it becomes a personal reward that nobody can deter you from embracing.

Rejection simply means one options/way didn't work so you have to go another way. It isn't the be-all and end-all because as they say 'where there is a will, there is away. It may seem inconvenient to find another route especially when you have gotten so far but it's for the best. Would you rather get to the end of the road and find you have to go back or would you rather accept the sign telling you that long before? Don't see the redirection as a delay, see it as a given period that you can learn from it and make adjustments.

DEALING WITH THE DREADFUL FEELING:

Don't associate your worth to results or what other people think. The truth is that life goes on; you may not be the perfect fit but it doesn't mean you aren't perfect just the way you are. It sounds cheesy but I speak to myself when I say 'who I am should isn't determined by the outcome'. Meaning even when you go through tough periods (whatever the reason) you will come out better-developed (e.g. stronger, confidence etc) not changed (trying to be something you're not).

With rejection, the feeling of regret grows on you and the thoughts get so intense 'I should have done this .. better'. Don't do this to yourself- I urge you to reflect on everything (small or big) you have achieved up till now and you'll quickly realise how far you have come and what you have accomplished.

LESSONS TO LEARN:

When things don't go your way, look for the better way. I am still trying to accept that I'm not perfect, it's ok to make mistakes and am learning to value myself rather than undermine myself.

My character (self-worth) will be tested but it will help me to deal with NOs and not be negatively affected. I once heard ( from a wise mentor) that NO means 'Next Opportunity'. So yes I am still recovering from today's rejection but I'm hopeful in my redirection in life to do great things.

WOW, this is a relief! ( thank you for reading).I am going to take my own advice, do my best to get up and move on, let me know how you deal with rejection in the comments below.