How To Save Yourself From Isolation.

In this post, I speak from the heart... from a vulnerable place hoping that you can relate or help someone else slipping into a ditch of isolation.

The other night I was overwhelmed by a harsh realisation regarding an ongoing and denied truth.I was isolating myself. It may seem minor but it made a drastic difference to everything. It caught me off guard,thinking it was minor, and I hope it becomes a gentle eye opener for some of you that it is not.

“Isolation convinces you are better off being apart from everyone for far too long.”

THE REALISATION I HAD :

During my previous academic year ,in short,I pushed away everyone that cared for me, which I obliviously couldn't see or comprehend. I suffered a lot emotionally,mentally and evidently socially. This is only one instance out of many isolate experiences.

I was so distraught the other night, why? Because I detremented myself and possibly hurt others who could not apprehend my solitary behaviour. It was a regret of mine and that dawned on me that night.

How did I notice such issue all of a sudden? I was unhappy and felt I couldn't talk to anyone at all.This is far from the truth. Nowadays it's become a lie that the majority of us believe that our problems are our own and shouldn't be discussed or acted on with the help of others.

I know we all have our issues. The least thing we want to do, it burden others with our heavy weight.We have to know that there is someone to talk, who cares and who wants to help. Think of it this way...

Let's say you had to carry a very heavy box and carry it over a far distance. You're having trouble lifting the box and the thought of where you have to take it to is overwhelming. Who said you had to do it alone? Attempting to try is not the issue, but when you continue alone and you risk injuring yourself, what good does it bring? Instead, ask or suggest to someone that you need help to lift the box. That way you don't harm yourself and you get the job done.

When I can't express myself 'normally' or clearly I just go to God.Personally His presence is where I find comfort. Now I understand this will be different for everybody but I encourage you to dig deep and let yourself find that person,place or thing that will give you that safety you need. It is so important especially as you start to withdraw.

I knew that I was in a deep state of Isolation because it followed the same pattern as a intermediate family member ( in a worst state of isolation and denial)l.I write with vulnerability when I say that isolation is subtle but it's effects are life-changing causing depression, anxiety,loss of self etc which at least explains how I felt.

I s o l a t i o n TRICKS TO BEWARE OF.

-It convinces you to be alone for too long. Time away from people,things,places can be good if it's swift and purposed to recuperate.

-It convinces you to stay quiet which makes you caught up in your own thoughts.This makes it difficult to be able to see when it progresses.

-It encourages you to remain alone. You almost feel compelled to be content alone without a justified reason. If you are hurt, mentally troubled etc there is always someone to confide in.

SLOWLY SOLVE THE PROBLEM

I personally think that 'I s o l a t i o n' is a issue .I view it as the root of loneliness ,anxiety, depression and other mental and emotional effects. It is all down to perspective but being in the mist of people isn't always a burden, particularly when those 'people' care about you or should be the first to lift you up. If you are feeling that you are withdrawing from friends and family, consider it important to get help (by #talkingabouttheissue) to stop slipping under isolation traits. (#vulnerable #isolation #problem)

I am still recovering and have a lot to learn ,I am only entering the first stage which is identifying that I suffer from isolate behaviour/ habits.

I am not an expert (please seek professional help if you feel it is required) but i'm speaking from experience and observation. I really have written from a sensitive place but writing is where I can confide.

Thanks for reading !